Steady and Connected
Does anxiety show up in your closest relationships? Do you find yourself seeking reassurance, reading into silences, or pulling away just when you want to get closer?
You're not difficult. You're not too much. Your nervous system may be responding to patterns laid down long before this relationship began.
Steady and Connected is the podcast that explains why — and shows you what you can do about it.
Hosted by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Griffith University, drawing on 30 years of helping people understand themselves. Each episode brings you evidence-based tools for understanding anxiety, attachment, and emotional regulation in your closest relationships.
Practical. Warm. Clinically grounded. Made specifically for people navigating the real pressures of relationships and mental health today.
Find the free Attachment and Anxiety Quiz at steadyandconnected.com.au
Steady and Connected provides psychoeducation content for general information purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual psychological assessment or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Episodes
16 episodes
Anxious Attachment in a Long Marriage: The Way Back
Episode 15 — Anxious Attachment in a Long Marriage: The Way Back New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–14 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. You have been married several years, an...
Partner Goes Quiet: How to Stay Steady in the Silence
Episode 14 — Partner Goes Quiet: How to Stay Steady in the Silence New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–13 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. They come in, put their keys down, an...
Earned Secure Attachment: What Steadier Actually Feels Like
Episode 13 — Earned Secure Attachment: What Steadier Actually Feels Like New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–12 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. The reply comes in at ten past ...
Can Anxious Attachment Change? A Verdict or a Map
Episode 12 — Can Anxious Attachment Change? A Verdict or a MapNew to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–11 set up the foundation — start there if you're new.Maybe you took a quiz once, and a word came back. Anxio...
Overthinking at Night: The 3am Relationship Rehearsal
Episode 11 — Overthinking at Night: The 3am Relationship Rehearsal New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–10 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. It's the middle of ...
Why Their Tone Changes Your Whole Day: The Inner Radar
Episode 10 — Why Their Tone Changes Your Whole Day: The Inner Radar New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–9 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. They come home, and something in thei...
Why You Keep Checking: Last Online, Read Receipts, the Loop
Episode 9 — Why You Keep Checking: Last Online, Read Receipts, the Loop New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–8 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. Delivered. Not seen. You put the ...
Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment: Steadying Yourself
Episode 8 — Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment: Steadying Yourself New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–7 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. This episode closes the first run. Two t...
Protest Behaviour: When "I'm Fine" Means the Opposite
Episode 7 — Protest Behaviour: When "I'm Fine" Means the Opposite New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–6 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. They ask if something's wrong. And you say ...
Reassurance Never Lasts: Why the Worry Comes Back
Episode 6 — Reassurance Never Lasts: Why the Worry Comes Back New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–5 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. You ask them: are we okay? And they say yes. Of...
Anxious Attachment and Avoidance: The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle
Episode 5 — Anxious Attachment and Avoidance: The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1–4 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. You reach for them — a question, a touc...
How to Communicate When Anxiety Hijacks the Conversation
New to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1, 2 and 3 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. This episode closes the first arc.You've been meaning to raise something — not a fight, just something that matters. You pick y...
Your Nervous System in Love: When the Alarm Sounds
Episode 3 — Your Nervous System in Love: When the Alarm SoundsNew to Steady and Connected? Episodes 1 and 2 set up the foundation — start there if you're new. This episode builds on both.It's late. You're both in bed. Most night...
Anxious Attachment: What It Is + How to Recognise It
Episode 2 — Anxious Attachment: What It Is + How to Recognise ItNew to Steady and Connected? Episode 1 sets up the foundation — start there if you're new. This episode builds on it."Thinking of you — how did the mee...
Why Anxiety Shows Up in Relationships — The Neuroscience Explained Simply
It's a weekday evening. Your partner has been quiet since they got home. You ask if they're okay — "Yeah, fine" — and in the next ninety seconds, something tightens.In this first episode of Steady and Connected, Dr Nar...